Recently I came across an idea and it's been popping up in my head over the past couple of weeks.
While it circulated a couple years ago and before as well, it was a fresh idea for me.
The idea is that instead of saying "Sorry for being late" you say "Thank you for waiting" or "Thank you for your patience." Instead of apologizing for the state of your home (because, you know, actual people live there), you can express gratitude for having understanding guests.
I love this idea.
Instead of lowering or debasing ourselves (often for just being human), we can elevate those around us.
This isn't to say there aren't times that call for genuine apologies. Often these little social "sorry"s are a way of covering over our own insecurities about the gap between how we think we should live and how we actually do.
Enough is enough people.
Thank you for being here. Thank you for waiting. Thank you for showing up for me.
Thank you for being so understanding when I lose my cool. Thanks for being marvelous when I wasn't at my best. Thanks for picking up my slack, I'll do my best help you up when you stumble too.
Thanks for being you!
Appreciation and gratitude not only affirm and boost those around us but giving them also positively affects the giver. If we are in a place to thank someone, we have received something.
Instead of something lacking or being wrong with ourselves, we can highlight the good around us.
Each and every one of us can find things to be grateful for and ways to express that gratitude.
Let's make the world a more lovely, connected place, together.
We all know, on some deep level, that it's our connections with other people that make life great. There are so many people suffering without those connections, contacts, or even enough positive interaction with those they do have.
Little shifts such as these can truly change the world. And goodness knows, we could use a little right now.