Have you ever thought about how we learn to walk or watched someone playing a video game where they fall down or lose their character over and over and over but keep going, they keep trying?
They fail forward.
It's easy to get caught up in seeing someone else's highlight reel, particularly on social media. It's easy to see someone's expertise and compare your own abilities to theirs.
I'm here to tell you, if you want to make great things, you have to start where you are.
Make crummy stuff!
I had some ladies from school stay in my spare room for a handful of weeks last summer while HandsomeJoe was out of town. One of them asked me how I learned to cook so well. I told her honestly that I had made a lot of really awful food.
Even now, I'm getting pretty good at turning my foodie-failures into things that my kids will actually eat. It's pretty simple to turn failures into muffins or pancakes, and if it's really awful, I let the chickens turn it into eggs.
So often I see people try a thing, think they've failed, and give up. Making things is rarely talent and almost always skill. Those who are thought of as "talented" have often worked the hardest or the longest to be so.
Talent is innate. Skill is learned.
If someone else can learn something, so can you.
I'm going to let you in on a little secret. There's almost nothing I can do that you couldn't do if you were to spend as long as I have practicing, falling down, getting up, trying again. Granted you might not want to spend that time and in a lot of cases, you have other things you'd enjoy more.
Going through old papers, I shredded my first attempts at my calligraphy project for school. So here's one of my second round of attempts.
Hi Myrhh so nice Do you have your pop up on my Facebook page and you have children and you make things and you cook that’s so exciting to hear I’m just being a little silly but it’s really nice to see you where do you live in has your mom where does she live now I’d love to hearReplyDelete
I'm just over the river from you lovelies near the center of Florence. My mum is back up in New Hampshire with full sun for gardening!Delete
Crummy is so important. Thank you for showing it in such a lovely light.ReplyDelete
My beginner painting students are always excited and enthusiastic and understand they won't make a masterpiece on the first try. But after they have worked at it for awhile, they get frustrated and often give up when they still aren't painting as they want. This middle ground is a delicate place. The acceptance of crummy is vital for continuing. Yes, celebrate the successes but acknowledge that they are separated by lots of crummy — that's just part of the process.
Your post wasn't crummy!
And hello Celia!